If there’s one quality I admire in someone, it’s their ability to communicate thoughts and ideas clearly without fear of being challenged or ridiculed. And, if you can express true emotion, that’s even better in my books.
For me, openness and communication have always been central. Years of experience have shaped my writing and taught me how to craft messages that resonate and make sense to the reader.
But when it comes to speaking my feelings out loud, that’s where things get tricky. Don’t get me wrong—I rehearse brilliant conversations in my head. I know exactly what I want to say. Yet the moment I’m face-to-face with someone, the words vanish. Suddenly, the topic feels misplaced or mistimed.
This morning, I found myself asking, Why is it so hard to speak up? Surely, I’m not alone in this. Just to be clear—these thoughts are personal reflections, not drawn from any study or research.
Why do we hold back?
I don’t feel smart enough.
For a long time, I worried that my lack of higher formal education made my voice less valid. But I’ve come to realize that lived experience carries its own kind of wisdom. Sharing your perspective isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about starting a conversation. If you speak from what you know, speak with confidence.
I feel ashamed.
We all want others to believe our lives are picture-perfect—the marriage is thriving, the bills are paid, and everyone’s getting along. But behind closed doors, many of us face silent struggles. Opening up to someone you trust can lighten that emotional load. They may not fix everything, but they might offer support, guidance, or simply a reminder that you’re not alone.
I fear the response.
Sometimes I bite my tongue because I already know how someone might react. But if holding it in is eating away at you, maybe it’s time to speak. Prepare yourself for the reaction, whatever it may be—and respond in a way that feels true to you.
I’m afraid of losing a friend.
Friendship is precious, and the thought of jeopardizing it can be painful. So ask yourself: Is what you want to say worth the risk? If it is, choose your words with care.
Expressing yourself isn’t always easy. It can be uncomfortable, even scary. But sometimes, it’s the very thing that helps you breathe a little easier. Before you speak, take a moment to reflect: What do you want to say? How might it be received? And are you ready to accept the outcome?
Writing for you. 