Birthdays have this funny way of acting like a spotlight. They don’t just celebrate your age; they illuminate exactly who is standing in your corner.
I recently wrapped up my own birthday, and looking back, the “gifts” weren’t what sat on the table—it was the people who showed up.
There is a specific kind of magic in a day spent surrounded by family—children and grandchildren filling the room with energy, stories and the kind of laughter that echoes in your heart long after the day goes quiet. Sharing lunch and trading memories isn’t just about the food or the nostalgia; it’s about the warmth and love that flows naturally when you are with your “people.” These are the ones who know your history and are actively supporting you as you write your future.
Unexpected touches
What really touched me, though, were the little unexpected surprises. I got notes from extended family members I hadn’t heard from in a while and friends who popped up out of the blue just to say ‘enjoy the day.’ It made me realize that knowing who is “in your life” versus who is just “in your contacts” isn’t about how often you text. It’s about intentionality. The people who matter are the ones who make the effort to bridge the gap, even when life gets busy.
Who is truly in your life?
So, how do we distinguish between those who are simply in our orbit and those who are truly in our lives? It rarely comes down to grand gestures or expensive gifts. Instead, it’s found in the consistency of care.
The people who matter are those who:
• Acknowledge your milestones: They make an effort to ensure you feel seen.
• Show up in the quiet moments: They aren’t just there for the party, but for the shared memories.
• Reach out without an agenda: Their only goal is to let you know they are thinking of you.
The people who showed up for me this birthday? These are the people who fill my heart.
Interestingly, this isn’t really a “communication” topic in the traditional sense—it’s not about being a great talker or sending the longest email. It’s actually a subtle way of communicating through presence. When someone reaches out or shows up, they are saying, “You are a priority to me,” without ever having to use those specific words. You know who’s in your life because they make sure you don’t have to wonder. They don’t just hold a space in your phone; they hold a space in your day.
These are the people who make the journey worth it. If they showed up for you, make sure you keep showing up for them.
Writing for you. 